Q. That it came with the demand that you perform sexually?
How did you handle the situation?
How did you handle the situation?
A. I would give the gift back and never talk to the guy again
Real woman deserve and will demand respect.
Real woman deserve and will demand respect.
What is a book that deals with the main character being an isolated lonely adult?
Q. I'm not looking for a sexually lonely adult book, but rather an adult who has no contacts for various reasons. Thanks.
This could be a novel or a true story/memoir.
This could be a novel or a true story/memoir.
A. A 1972 movie you might enjoy is "Tomorrow" It is about a bachelor Mississippi farmer. Robert Duval really captures the personality. Victor Hugo's "Forgiveness and Redemption" is about a man on the run. He becomes wealthy but still has to keep a low profile because he is being looked for. Another wealthy loner is found in the novel "God Bless You, Mr. Rosewater". Another movie you might enjoy is "Sling Blade" It is about a moderately retarded man who is gifted in making repairs of small engines. Also he has a no non-sense way of logical thinking. I guess its what some folks call "horse sense"
Cheers to Houanswer and to Advocate for two excellent choices.
Cheers to Houanswer and to Advocate for two excellent choices.
What are the major reasons some women have appeasing personalities?
Q. Women more than men seem to feel they have to accomodate men, or at least behave as such, sometimes sexually, and other persons, including relatives and friends of either sex. What are the reasons for this? How can such women be convinced to be more secure and less worried about disappointing others?
A. There are actually several reasons for this, not the least of which that our society has trained us to behave this way, much the same as men are trained not to cry.
You have to understand women are nuturers by nature. It is our job as mothers to put ourselves last and to make certain our offspring are provided with everything they need. It is in our nature to be self sacrificing towards the ones we love and feel are in our care.
That being said, this selfless behavior is often mistaken as weakness by men who cannot understand the sincere love and generosity that is really behind such an act. Many times this misunderstanding can create a self perpetuating situation where the woman is always trying to give more in the hope of acknowledgement of her efforts, and the man becomes ever more complacent and takes such efforts for granted or even takes advantage of the woman's kindness and exploits it for all it is worth. A truly kind and giving woman can only find happiness with a man who truly loves her and appreciates her efforts in the spirit they were spent.
As far as society goes there are multiple causes in play. First, it is expected that a woman should give up more, should compromise more, and should be less assertive. The number one complaint I hear about American women is that they are too strong minded. That they don't bend as easily to a man's will as a woman from another culture might.
Next, you have the double standard as applies to men and women and standing up for one's self when a slight is perceived.
For example: If a man offends another man, it is immediately brought to the forefront and dealt with. The men might accuse each, call each other names, perhaps even fight it out physically, but at the end of it, no one says, oh so and so was being a bi**h. Both parties are assumed to have had reasonable cause for the conflict, and even when one clearly does not have reasonable cause, and outsider generally would not offer his or her opinion on it. Whereas, if a woman defends herself to a man, she is generally labeled as being a bi**h, or at the least some reference to her "Time of the month" is made. A woman cannot display either anger or righteous indignation without suffering an unfair labeling of causation. I believe this makes many women just suck it up when they feel they are being treated unfairly. It is incredibly frustrating to try to stand up for your rights and feelings when merely by doing so even when correct in the female's perception of what is going on, she knows she will be treated unfairly by any who view the exchange. If a man stands up for himself, it is perceived as strength, even when he is wrong. When a woman stands up for herself it is perceived as bit*hy rude or otherwise unappealing. Leading to the next reason. Women are taught from a very young age that they must be appealing to men and society in general at nearly any cost. Every girl/woman knows the phrase "It hurts to be beautiful." While most of hear this phrase when we are getting our hair pulled while mom is brushing it, it trickles down to also mean that in order to be appealing you must accept pain without protest. There is not enough of a distinction made to separate this understanding from physical pain to psychological pain, and by the time a woman is in her tenage years, she is already learning to suck it up when her boyfriend hurts her feelings. She might say something the first time, but she will soon realize that the male animal does not respond well to criticism of what he considers his best efforts. She will learn or she will push him away as he continually hurts her feelings out of a lack of proper consideration of her perception.
A psychologically healthy woman will eventually settle with a man that appreciates her for the truly kind and giving person she was deigned to be, and if he loves her, he will do his best to protect the beautiful gift of love he has found, rather than persecuting what everyone else views as weakness.
I think that at this point in time more women than ever have said to heck with this whole societal norm, and are out to win at a man's game. Still many of these women will tell you that they have a very difficult time finding a lasting relationship. Many men are intimidated by such a display of strength, and more still do not understand that a woman can be strong and still need them, and most men want to be needed.
So it is a careful line that must be tread, establishing our strength and still be appealing. Remember that women are incredibly strong creatures. It takes a lot more strength to be selfless than it does to be selfish. It is a mistake to view this neverending ability to give as a weakness.
You have to understand women are nuturers by nature. It is our job as mothers to put ourselves last and to make certain our offspring are provided with everything they need. It is in our nature to be self sacrificing towards the ones we love and feel are in our care.
That being said, this selfless behavior is often mistaken as weakness by men who cannot understand the sincere love and generosity that is really behind such an act. Many times this misunderstanding can create a self perpetuating situation where the woman is always trying to give more in the hope of acknowledgement of her efforts, and the man becomes ever more complacent and takes such efforts for granted or even takes advantage of the woman's kindness and exploits it for all it is worth. A truly kind and giving woman can only find happiness with a man who truly loves her and appreciates her efforts in the spirit they were spent.
As far as society goes there are multiple causes in play. First, it is expected that a woman should give up more, should compromise more, and should be less assertive. The number one complaint I hear about American women is that they are too strong minded. That they don't bend as easily to a man's will as a woman from another culture might.
Next, you have the double standard as applies to men and women and standing up for one's self when a slight is perceived.
For example: If a man offends another man, it is immediately brought to the forefront and dealt with. The men might accuse each, call each other names, perhaps even fight it out physically, but at the end of it, no one says, oh so and so was being a bi**h. Both parties are assumed to have had reasonable cause for the conflict, and even when one clearly does not have reasonable cause, and outsider generally would not offer his or her opinion on it. Whereas, if a woman defends herself to a man, she is generally labeled as being a bi**h, or at the least some reference to her "Time of the month" is made. A woman cannot display either anger or righteous indignation without suffering an unfair labeling of causation. I believe this makes many women just suck it up when they feel they are being treated unfairly. It is incredibly frustrating to try to stand up for your rights and feelings when merely by doing so even when correct in the female's perception of what is going on, she knows she will be treated unfairly by any who view the exchange. If a man stands up for himself, it is perceived as strength, even when he is wrong. When a woman stands up for herself it is perceived as bit*hy rude or otherwise unappealing. Leading to the next reason. Women are taught from a very young age that they must be appealing to men and society in general at nearly any cost. Every girl/woman knows the phrase "It hurts to be beautiful." While most of hear this phrase when we are getting our hair pulled while mom is brushing it, it trickles down to also mean that in order to be appealing you must accept pain without protest. There is not enough of a distinction made to separate this understanding from physical pain to psychological pain, and by the time a woman is in her tenage years, she is already learning to suck it up when her boyfriend hurts her feelings. She might say something the first time, but she will soon realize that the male animal does not respond well to criticism of what he considers his best efforts. She will learn or she will push him away as he continually hurts her feelings out of a lack of proper consideration of her perception.
A psychologically healthy woman will eventually settle with a man that appreciates her for the truly kind and giving person she was deigned to be, and if he loves her, he will do his best to protect the beautiful gift of love he has found, rather than persecuting what everyone else views as weakness.
I think that at this point in time more women than ever have said to heck with this whole societal norm, and are out to win at a man's game. Still many of these women will tell you that they have a very difficult time finding a lasting relationship. Many men are intimidated by such a display of strength, and more still do not understand that a woman can be strong and still need them, and most men want to be needed.
So it is a careful line that must be tread, establishing our strength and still be appealing. Remember that women are incredibly strong creatures. It takes a lot more strength to be selfless than it does to be selfish. It is a mistake to view this neverending ability to give as a weakness.
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