Q. My friend got mad when her grooms step brother only spent about
$30.00 on their wedding gift to them. She thinks you should spend the same amount of what the dinner costs per person. For example, if your whole family is invited, say 5 people, the dinner costs $20.00 per plate: 5 x 25.00= $125.00. I know if i had three kids to outfit for a wedding, plus any traveling expenses I probably could not quite afford a $125.00 gift. They also think a wedding is supposed to be a money making event. Plus how in the world are you supposed to know how much the bride & groom are paying per plate?!
$30.00 on their wedding gift to them. She thinks you should spend the same amount of what the dinner costs per person. For example, if your whole family is invited, say 5 people, the dinner costs $20.00 per plate: 5 x 25.00= $125.00. I know if i had three kids to outfit for a wedding, plus any traveling expenses I probably could not quite afford a $125.00 gift. They also think a wedding is supposed to be a money making event. Plus how in the world are you supposed to know how much the bride & groom are paying per plate?!
A. It been almost 10 years since I got married and my wedding gifts ranged from $25-$500 per person. Quite frankly I was grateful for every penny offered. We chose to "spoil" our guests because they were just that, our Guests. You don't ask people to pay for their dinner when you invite them to your home, I don't believe it should be expected during a wedding either. But unfortunately, history dictates major gift giving during this particular event in your life. I think it really should be about what you can afford comfortably. I don't think the person who gave me $25 loved me any less than the pesron who gave us $500. It's just what they had to give at the time. On the same token, guests should realize that a wedding is something the couple (or their parents can afford) and expecting an "open" bar and talking about folks when it's a "cash bar" is not proper etiquette either. Note the area, Northern venues are usually a bit more pricey than Southern ones, etc. Below is a guide to gift giving during a wedding. I hope this helps. But your friend was looking to make a profit and that's not the way to start off your nuptials, getting married is not "hitting the jackpot" in the monetary sense. (Unless you married a millionaire without a pre-nup!)
We spent nearly $25,000 on our wedding 10 years ago, we had buses to take our guests to and from the reception, private ceremony, open bar all night and a full 7 course meal with many extras during the day. It's a once in a lifetime event, we enjoyed ourselves and our guests keep telling us it was the best wedding they had ever been too. Too me that's all that counts AND the fact that we are still married and just as happy as we were on that wonderful day!
We spent nearly $25,000 on our wedding 10 years ago, we had buses to take our guests to and from the reception, private ceremony, open bar all night and a full 7 course meal with many extras during the day. It's a once in a lifetime event, we enjoyed ourselves and our guests keep telling us it was the best wedding they had ever been too. Too me that's all that counts AND the fact that we are still married and just as happy as we were on that wonderful day!
How much to spend on a wedding gift when I have to travel?
Q. How much should I spend on a wedding gift for my best friend, who lives 700 miles away? We have 2 small children and finances are tight. My daughter and I are both in the wedding and have to buy dresses too. We'll be spending $700-800 just to attend the wedding and I'll buy a shower gift too. Is $40 to little for a gift in this instance?
A. I think whatever you're able to do is fine. That is a LARGE sum of money to be putting up just to be a part of it, so if I were the bride, I'd be understanding if you skipped out on the gift altogether. If you feel like you need to do something, I think 40 dollars would be good.
What is the appropriate wedding gift if I did not attend the wedding?
Q. My friend and his wife got married in Europe and my husband and I could not go to the wedding. They were at our wedding two years ago and I have no idea what is the appropriate wedding gift? Do I give them half of what they gave us since they did not have to pay for us at their wedding? Should I send a check or get a few remaining items from their registry? I don't want to offend them but have no idea what I am supposed to spend, please help.
A. Just spend what you can and want to spend. A gift card or a check would suffice. Or, find their registry and get what is within your budget. I never looked at my gifts and thought "Wow, I'm offended that they didn't spend more on me." I was just very thankful.
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